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The prospect of getting hitched often gives a couple butterflies — about the enormous cost of their wedding. But marrying your special someone doesn’t have to mean going into debt. A wedding planning and budget breakdown can help you prioritize which elements matter most to you, so you can achieve the wedding of your dreams without going overboard.

We’ll review the average wedding cost breakdown of common wedding items big and small, mistakes to avoid, and cost-cutting tips that will make the whole process easier on your wallet and your peace of mind.

Average Cost of a Wedding

Based on a 2023 SoFi survey of 1,000 people, the median cost of a wedding is $10,000. As you might expect, individual figures can vary greatly: If you get hitched in the grand ballroom of a hotel in Chicago with sweeping views of Lake Michigan, it’s going to be much pricier than gathering with just immediate family and your best friends to exchange vows by that same lake.

In real life, the average cost of a wedding varies widely based on location. In Tampa, FL, and Minneapolis, MN, wedding expenses total around $30,000, according to The Knot. Over in Boston and San Francisco, the big day exceeds $50,000. Worth noting: These figures represent average wedding costs, which can be misleading. Just one lavish wedding, for example, can skew the average to be higher than what most people actually paid.

We’ve rounded up the items that will account for most of your wedding budget.

Major Costs to Include in Your Wedding Budget Breakdown

Next, consider this breakdown for a major, $30,000-plus wedding with all the bells and whistles. While the median cost of a wedding is considerably lower, this will give you an idea of how expenses may be broken down. Most couples go all-in on just one or two priorities for their big day.

Mind you, these are the costs incurred by and for the bride and groom. The groomsmen and bridesmaids will incur their own costs for being in the wedding.

Figure Out What You Can Afford

No one is born knowing how to plan a wedding. To set your wedding budget, start by asking yourself a few questions:

•   How much of your savings are you willing to use for your overall wedding budget?

•   Are your parents or other relatives planning to contribute financially?

•   How much can you reasonably save each month from your salary? A spending app can help you monitor expenses and stick to your budget.

•   How long will it take to save the amount of money you need?

•   Is a wedding really worth the amount of money you want to spend on it?

•   Should a one-day event take priority over other life goals, like traveling together, starting a family, or owning a home?

Getting clarity on these answers will help you come up with a starting number.

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Typical Wedding Budget Allocation

Budget allocation involves assigning a percentage of your overall fund to each category. Use the percentages below to get a rough idea of how much you can pay for your venue, catering, etc. According to The Knot, a typical budget allocation looks like this:

These numbers don’t add up to 100% because alternative options are offered for the same category, such as live music, DJ, or guest entertainment. In combination with the average wedding costs table above, you should be able to project your total budget without any major surprises.

Common Wedding Budget Mistakes to Avoid

•   Not budgeting enough. Many couples underestimate the amount of money they’ll spend on a wedding. When there’s no plan, everything becomes a priority and you’ll go through money faster than you can imagine. Be sure to make both a wedding budget and a savings plan to make it happen.

•   Not communicating with loved ones about the budget. If you have parents or other loved ones helping to cover expenses, be sure to have a conversation with them to avoid overestimating their contribution.

•   Not saving long enough. Once you know how much you’ll need, be realistic about how long it will take you to save that money. You may want to consider pushing back your wedding date to have enough time to save for it. (Too late to save up? Learn about wedding financing options.)

•   Going into debt. Many couples put wedding expenses on a credit card. If the balance isn’t paid off within the month, you’ll end up paying high interest rates on top of what you budgeted.

•   Forgetting to budget for unexpected costs. Surprise bills always come up. Keep a small amount reserved for unexpected wedding expenses.

•   Not keeping track of your spending. With wedding expenses, it’s easy to lose track of which bills you’ve paid. A money tracker can help you stay organized.

7 Cost-Cutting Tips When Planning a Wedding on a Budget

If your list of wedding expenses far exceeds your budget, don’t panic. Trimming your costs isn’t so hard if you know how to go about it. These ideas can help.

1. Limit Your Guest List

Consider shortening your guest list to include only close friends and family members. This can be a blessing in disguise for certain types of weddings. For instance, a destination wedding is especially difficult to coordinate for more than 100 people.

2. Host the Ceremony or Reception at Home or Outside

The wedding venue is often your biggest expense — unless you move the ceremony outside or to a private home. Depending on the location, you can reserve a park pavilion for around $100. A permit to hold a wedding ceremony at a national park is around $385. Forgoing a fancy venue puts a lot of money back in your pocket.

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3. Source Second-Hand Items

Utilizing a few previously owned items is a real budget saver.

•   Wedding decor. Gently used decor is often sold online at a fraction of the cost. Keep your eye on Craigslist, Facebook Marketplace, eBay, and Etsy for items that work with your theme.

•   Wedding dress. A wedding dress that costs thousands brand-new can be thrifted for a few hundred dollars. If you really want to save money on wedding attire, consider borrowing a dress from a good friend or family member.

4. Ask Friends and Family to Gift Their Skills

Do you have a photographer in your network? What about an aspiring caterer or florist? While it’s worth paying for their skills, you can also try exchanging something of value. Babysitting for busy parents is always a winner.

You can also ask for services in lieu of a gift. Tactfully articulate your desire to start your new life on a budget, while respecting their need to earn a living. If they say they can’t do it, don’t push.

5. DIY Whenever Possible

Many details that cost a fortune to outsource may be pulled together with the help of friends and family.

•   Centerpieces. Your table decor can be made ahead of time by the wedding party or a group of aunties.

•   Invitations. It’s so easy to make your own wedding invitations. Even if you’re unskilled, you can use online tools like Canva to create your design. Save the result as a photo file for cheap printing. Image files cost as little as 10 cents to print. Compare that to formal invitations that typically cost several dollars each to print.

•   Catering. Know someone who makes an incredible main dish or specializes in smoked barbecue? They may be willing to help out for little more than the cost of groceries and supplies.

•   Flowers. Making your own bouquet from flowers sold at the farmer’s market or grocer is an easy way to save a lot of money. Check out a YouTube video tutorial, and you’ll be on your way.

6. Use a Dummy Wedding Cake

A dummy wedding cake is one that is made just for appearance. It’s frosted to look like a real cake but underneath it’s just Styrofoam or cardboard.

7. Time Your Wedding Strategically

Wedding season traditionally runs from May to October. This is when demand is highest — and prices too. If you can plan a wedding for the off-season (say, December or March), demand and prices are lower. You may be able to get the venue you want for the price you want.

8. Scout Out Vendors

While you’re saving money for the wedding, you might as well suss out suitable vendors and venues at other weddings. Make notes on what you like, and book services way ahead of time for a better deal.

The Secret to the Wedding of Your Dreams

Your dream wedding doesn’t have to spawn a nightmare budget. Be mindful of what you really want and what you can really afford. If a backyard potluck is all it takes to make you happy, then don’t worry about what other people say you “should” do.

Do what you want — and feel great about sticking to a budget that frees up funds for other purposes, like your first home or a lengthy honeymoon. Because saving for a dream wedding is just the first step in a couple’s life together.

The Takeaway

Budgeting for a wedding can help you start married life on the right foot financially. First, find out the average costs in your area for major wedding expenses — venue, catering, music, photography. Then determine how much money you can pull together from family, your current savings, and however many paychecks you’ll receive before the big day.

Budget allocation (assigning a percentage of your funds to each category) can help you separate your wants from needs. For example, you may want a live band and sit-down dinner for 200, but you only need a DJ and lots of passed hors d’oeuvres. If you scrimp on some items, you can splurge on others.

Take control of your finances with SoFi. With our financial insights and credit score monitoring tools, you can view all of your accounts in one convenient dashboard. From there, you can see your various balances, spending breakdowns, and credit score. Plus you can easily set up budgets and discover valuable financial insights — all at no cost.

FAQ

How should your wedding budget be broken down?

Spend according to your values. If you value how you look, allocate a large portion of your budget to the dress, tuxedo, hair stylist, and makeup artist. If you value memories created by a video, allocate enough budget for that service. It all comes down to priorities. Spend more money on the things that are important to you, and save money on things that are incidental, and you’ll most likely be happy with your decisions.

What is a good budget for a simple wedding?

Since tastes and costs vary so much, it’s hard to offer an exact number for a simple wedding budget. Getting married doesn’t have to cost much more than the marriage license fee, but if you want to celebrate with loved ones, you’ll need to save money to make it happen. With a little creativity, it’s possible to make your wedding ideas come to life on any budget.

What is a low budget for a wedding on average?

For a low-budget wedding where no meals are provided for guests, plan on spending a few hundred dollars. At the very least, you need to pay a fee for a marriage license and an officiant. You can wear something you already have, eat a potluck meal, and take your own pictures — and it will still be magical.

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First-time parents can be so preoccupied with the love they feel for their new babies and the constant care required that they may lose sight of their larger financial goals. When you’re busy getting to know your little human, you may not prioritize money management.

But securing your growing family’s finances is an important consideration. You have new needs and goals evolving, such as your child’s education and your retirement. Here’s smart advice to help you manage your money well during this new life stage and beyond.

7 Financial Tips for New Parents

Raising a child can cost more than $15,000 a year, according to one recent calculation using U.S. Department of Agriculture data. That can put some serious stress on your finances. Here’s guidance on making your money work for you and your family.

1. Avoid Overspending on Baby Gear

As a first-time parent, you likely have quite a bit of work to do before the baby arrives. You may need to create and furnish a nursery for your child, and stock up on diapers, bottles, clothes, toys, and so much more.

As you’re setting up your new life with a baby, it can feel like buying everything brand-new is the only option, but that can be costly. You might consider taking advantage of used or gifted items so as not to deplete your bank account.

You can buy a lot of items secondhand at a lower cost through online marketplaces or used goods and consignment stores. Or you might see what “freecycle” networks in your area have available at no charge. That’s one way to save money daily.

And if you have friends, family, or neighbors that already have children, they may be looking to unload some of the gear their children no longer use. Families with older kids are often happy to pass on items such as clothes, cribs, playpens, toys, and books. You might check Nextdoor.com and other community sites, which can be a good resource for local families seeking to offload these items.

2. Don’t Live Without a Safety Net

As a parent, you have a host of new responsibilities, and expenses you never imagined may pop up. So consider these moves:

•   An emergency fund becomes even more important when you have a child or one is on the way. You’re now responsible for all of their needs, and there may be unplanned costs that pop up along the way. Or, if you were to endure a job loss, you’d need to continue to provide for your child.

•   Saving for an emergency is a process, and it’s okay to start small — even just $25 a week will add up over time. Some people opt to store their emergency fund in a high-yield savings account or checking account. Earning interest that way will help your money grow faster.

•   Review your health insurance. You may want to opt for a different plan now that you have a child. An addition to the family is usually a qualifying life event (QLE) that can allow you to make changes regarding your plan outside of the usual open enrollment period.

•   Consider life insurance and disability insurance if you don’t already have it or, if you do, see if you want to update your coverage. When a little one is depending on you, you probably want to protect their future if you weren’t able to earn your usual income. Maybe you can only afford a modest policy at this moment. That can be fine; it’s a start and something you can revisit later as you grow your wealth.

3. Keep a Budget

With a baby on board, you likely have a host of new expenses, from the life insurance mentioned above to daycare to toys (and more toys). Making a budget can help you prepare to pay for the extra expenses.

The word “budget” can conjure up fear, but it’s really just a helpful set of financial guardrails that help you balance how much you have coming in and how much is going out towards expenditures and savings.

•   You might try the popular 50/30/20 budget rule which says that 50% of your take-home pay should go toward needs, 30% toward wants, and 20% toward savings.

•   You could check with your financial institution to see what kinds of tools they provide for tracking your money. This can be a great resource as you work to improve your money management and hit your goals.

•   To make a budget, you might also see what apps or websites offer products that could work for you. Check with trusted friends to see what they may recommend.

4. Don’t Put Off Retirement Savings

Another financial mistake new parents: Learning to pay yourself first isn’t easy for a lot of parents to do, but it’s vital. (For instance, while you can borrow money for college expenses for your child, you can’t likely borrow for your retirement.)

For retirement saving, one way to start is by enrolling in your company’s 401(k) plan if one is offered. Some employers will match your contribution, up to a certain percentage, and you’ll be able to have your contribution taken directly from your paycheck.

If your employer doesn’t offer a 401(k), you could open an individual retirement account, or IRA, instead. Getting in the habit of saving at least a little for your own future can be important as your focus shifts to your new addition.

It’s never too early to start saving for retirement.

5. Start Savings for Your Child’s College

Saving for your children’s tuition can be an important step for many new parents. That’s because the sooner you start, the better. Your money will have that much more time to grow. College is a big-ticket expense, with estimates of tuition in 18 years being calculated as follows:

•   $25,039 per year for a public college

•   $48,380 per year for a private college

While a standard savings account may seem like the easy choice, there are other options designed to help you or grandparents save for a child’s education.

•   You might opt for the benefits of a 529 college savings plan. There are two types: education savings plans and prepaid tuition plans.

•   With an education savings plan, a tax-deferred investment account is used to save for the child’s future qualified higher education expenses, like tuition, fees, room and board, computers, and textbooks. Funds used for qualified expenses are not subject to federal income tax.

•   With a prepaid tuition plan, an account holder purchases units or credits at participating colleges and universities for future tuition and fees at current prices for the beneficiary. Money in this fund is guaranteed to rise at the same rate as tuition. Most of the plans have residency requirements for the saver and/or beneficiary.

•   A Coverdell Education Savings Account may also be worth looking into. In general, the beneficiary can receive tax-free distributions to pay for qualified education expenses. Contributions to a Coverdell account are limited to $2,000 per year, per beneficiary. The IRS sets no specific limits for 529s.

6. Make the Most of Tax Breaks

Another bit of financial advice for parents is that when you have a child, you may be eligible for certain tax benefits.

•   The Child and Dependent Care Credit: If your child is in daycare or preschool or you pay for another kind of caregiving, you may be eligible to claim this credit, which varies based on your income. Typically, you can get a credit of between 20% and 35% of qualifying expenses up to $3,000 for one dependent or $6,000 for two or more.

•   The Child Tax Credit: This allows parents to get a tax credit of up to $2,000 per child under the age of 17. Other qualifying dependents up to age 24 may provide a credit of $500 each.

•   The Earned Income Tax Credit: Lower-income parents may be able to claim this credit, which varies with income and number of children. The Internal Revenue Service (IRS) offers a calculator to check eligibility.

•   Adoption Tax Credit: This offers tax incentives to cover the cost incurred if you adopted a child. In 2024, the maximum credit was $16,810 per qualifying child.

You might consult a tax professional to see which of these you can claim.

7. Teach Your Kids About Money

If kids aren’t taught the basics of financial literacy at a young age, they may struggle to make a budget, avoid credit card debt, or save money when they’re older. You can help your children learn what it means to manage money in these ways:

•   Kids often love to play store, so go ahead and join in. By exchanging goods for money, they’re already beginning to understand the basic principles of commerce.

•   As they get older, you may want to give them an allowance in exchange for chores or homework completion.

•  You could even have them make a budget with their earnings, and encourage them to spend, save, and donate.

•  You could open a checking account with them, once they are old enough, and teach them how it works.

•  You might give them a gift card or prepaid debit card and coach them on sensible spending.

Can You Ever Be Fully Financially Ready for Parenthood?

It’s probably not possible to be fully financially ready for parenthood or for adult life in general. Part of each person’s financial journey is learning how to plan for the unexpected and navigate curveballs. That might mean financing a child’s dance lessons or speech therapy. You might wind up moving to what you consider a better school district and paying more for your mortgage and taxes.

That’s why embracing some of the guidelines above, such as making a budget, stocking an emergency fund with cash (perhaps sending some money there via direct deposit), and saving for the future can be so important.

The Takeaway

Being a new parent is a joyful time but also a challenging one. One priority not to lose track of is your financial health, especially since you are now providing for a little one and their future. By budgeting and spending wisely, saving for the future, and knowing which tax credits you may be able to claim, you can help yourself get on the path to financial security for your family.

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FAQ

How can you plan financially for parenthood?

Planning financially for parenthood can involve updating your budget, allocating funds to the right insurance policies and long-term goals (such as your child’s education and your own retirement), and creating an emergency fund, if you don’t already have one. Also educate yourself on any tax credits you might qualify for once you become a parent.

What are the biggest unforeseen expenses of parenthood?

Some of the unforeseen expenses of parenthood include your child’s medical, dental, and mental health costs; academic support (such as tutors and prep classes); hobbies (taking tae kwon do classes, perhaps, or traveling with their soccer club); and funding any family travel and vacations.

How much does a child cost per year?

The cost of raising a child per year can vary widely, depending on such factors as medical needs and whether they are attending public or private school. That said, recent studies suggest the current average figure is around $15,000 to $17,500 per year per child.

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