It’s an honor to be asked to be a member of a friend’s or family member’s wedding, but it also comes with a cost. Between buying/renting attire, attending pre-wedding events, and purchasing gifts, it can run around $1,650 to be a bridesmaid and $1,600 to be a groomsman.
Just one wedding can take a bite out of your budget, not to mention the familiar scenario of attending several weddings in one year. We’ll help you understand the expenses that go into being a part of the big day so you can prepare and budget well in advance.
How Much Does It Cost To Be a Bridesmaid?
While the average bridesmaid can spend $1,650 to be a part of the bridal party, costs vary significantly depending on location of the wedding, number of events, and dress code. Before you agree to participate as a bridesmaid (or maid of honor), it’s important to consider what costs you may be responsible for.
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The Dress
Etiquette dictates that bridesmaids cover the cost of their dress, shoes, and any accessories the bride has selected for them to wear. According to The Knot’s 2023 Real Weddings Study (which surveyed nearly 10,000 couples who wed in 2023), the average bridesmaid dress cost is $130 per person.
You’ll likely also be responsible for any alterations, which can run from $45 to $150, depending on what adjustments are needed. While there are ways you can save — such as renting a dress — that decision is often not up to the bridesmaid.
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Hair and Makeup
Traditionally, if the bride requests everyone in the party have their hair and makeup done in a certain style, she will cover the cost. If, on the other hand, bridesmaids are given the option to opt in or do their own thing, the bridesmaids generally cover the cost of getting glammed up for the big day. The average cost of wedding hair for bridesmaids is $95, tack on another $90 for makeup.
Bachelorette Party
Bachelorette parties have gotten more elaborate in recent years. Typically, every attendant pays for their own expenses, while also splitting the cost to cover most, or all, of the bride’s expenses.
According to The Knot, the average cost of a bachelorette party in 2023 was $1,300 per person. Of course, the cost of attending a bachelorette party varies significantly depending on the type, location, and length of the event. Celebrations that last between one to two days cost, on average, $1,135 per attendee, while those that go on for three to four days can run $1,630. Also, the farther you need to travel to the event, the more you’ll need to spend. Guests who travel to the bachelorette party locale by plane spend an average of $2,000, while those who travel by personal car spend an average of $900 to attend the event.
Wedding Travel and Accommodations
For the wedding itself, the bridal party is typically expected to cover the costs of travel and accommodations, which can vary significantly depending on the location of the event and length of stay (with members of the bridal party possibly needing to arrive early or stay late).
On average, wedding guests who need to travel outside of their town or city to attend a wedding spend around $456 on travel and accommodations. You could end up spending significantly more if you’re covering travel costs for yourself and other family members, or if the wedding involves long-distance travel. When the wedding is local, travel costs are likely to be minimal.
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Gifts
Bridesmaids traditionally give shower and wedding gifts, which add to the cost of being in someone’s wedding. According to The Knot, the average bridesmaid bridal shower gift cost between $50 and $75, while the average bridesmaid wedding gift lands at around $170. A group gift may allow you to spend less while giving something nicer than you could afford on your own.
What Does the Maid of Honor Pay For?
Being the maid of honor generally doesn’t cost more than being a bridesmaid, but it does come with additional duties and a greater commitment of time. Generally, the maid of honor is there to assist with any tasks she can take off the bride’s to-do list. They may be involved in planning pre-wedding events and generally take charge of communicating with other members of the wedding party.
In some cases, the maid of honor might plan the shower and help cover the costs. However, these days, the cost of a wedding shower is more commonly covered by family.
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What Do Groomsmen Pay for?
Groomsmen typically pay for their wedding attire, the cost to attend a bachelor party (which may include sharing the cost for the groom’s attendance), the cost to attend the wedding (which might involve travel and accommodations), as well as a wedding gift. Here’s a look at what it all adds up to.
Formalwear or Tuxedo Rental
Just like bridesmaids generally pay for their dresses, groomsmen typically pay for their wedding day clothing. This might be a suit, tuxedo, shirt and slacks, or another type of attire selected by the groom or couple. Typically the groomsmen’s attire is purchased or rented, but in some cases, a groom will let their wedding party choose from their own wardrobe, which can be a more affordable option.
If you need to rent a tux for the event, costs vary depending on what style, design, brand, and accessories you’ll need to wear. On average, you can expect to pay between $100 and $250 to rent a tux for the standard period.
Bachelor Party
Groomsmen normally take part in planning the bachelor party and may cover their own costs and the groom’s. According to a recent survey by The Knot (which included roughly 500 respondents who attended, or plan to attend, a bach party in 2023), the average cost of a bachelor party is $1,400 per person. The survey also found that the average bachelor celebration lasts for two days, and roughly one-fifth of attendees are flying to the party destination. Indeed, 29% of those surveyed are actually spending $2,000 (or more) to celebrate in a major metro city.
For guests who drove or were planning to drive to the event’s location, spending was less — averaging $1,000 per attendee.
Wedding Gift
Groomsmen are generally expected to give the couple a wedding gift, though they are not expected to spend more on a gift than other guests do. According to The Knot’s 2023 Real Wedding Guest Study, wedding party members spend an average of $160 on their gifts. If you want to save money, consider chipping in for a group gift with other wedding party members.
The Takeaway
It’s not unusual for a bridesmaid to spend $1,650, including the dress, bachelorette party, and gifts. Groomsmen may spend just a little bit less ($1600) for a rental tux, bachelor party, and wedding gift. Keep in mind, however, that the cost to be in someone’s wedding can run much higher or lower, depending on the location and style of wedding.
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