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Whether you’re relocating down the block or across the country, a lot of work and planning goes into moving. For current homeowners, there may be more logistics when they’re simultaneously buying and selling houses.

If you’re figuring out how to sell and buy a house at the same time, there are some options to choose from based on your personal budget, situation, and tolerance for risk.

Although this situation can be complex, it is not uncommon. In fact, 61% of home buyers owned their previous residence.

To help you manage this juggling act, this guide will go over potential challenges and outline some alternative options and tips to close on both deals.

Evaluating the Local Housing Market

Taking stock of the local housing market can help inform how you sell and buy a house at the same time. Not only does the market influence home prices, it can also impact how long it takes to close on a sale or purchase.

You may be faced with a housing market that favors buyers over sellers or vice versa. Researching your local housing market ahead of time can help guide your efforts in finding a new house.

When It’s a Buyer’s Market

A buyer’s market has more houses for sale than people actively looking to purchase a home. Generally, finding a new house in areas with a higher concentration of sellers can be easier than selling. At the same time, an accurate listing price and contingencies can factor into the equation.

Since there is less competition in the market, buyers can consider requesting an extended closing to allow time to sell their own house or include other contingencies in their offer. For instance, a home sale contingency can be included in a contract to coordinate a purchase with the sale of the buyer’s house.

A home sale contingency asks for the patience of a seller depending on their situation. Complications may arise in the event that all parties involved are simultaneously buying and selling homes.

On the flip side, sellers in a buyer’s market could benefit from setting a competitive asking price and getting ahead of inspection by buttoning up any lingering home maintenance issues.

When It’s a Seller’s Market

If there are more buyers in the housing market than there are homes for sale, it’s considered a seller’s market. Often, selling a house where there’s a high percentage of homebuyers takes less time and can fetch a higher price.

Sellers may be able to take advantage of the housing scarcity and go with a more ambitious asking price. If this pays off for you, the extra cash could be especially useful if you are shopping for houses in a seller’s market yourself. Making a competitive offer may be helpful if you are trying to beat out other bids and quickly secure a home.

It’s also not uncommon for houses to receive multiple offers in a seller’s market. If this is the case, sellers may have more success negotiating favorable terms that suit their sell and buy situation.

For example, a rent-back agreement allows sellers to lease their former house from the new owners for a set period of time. This gives them more time to find their new home, but may not be an acceptable condition for every prospective buyer.

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Calculating Home Equity

Getting your finances in order to buy and sell a home isn’t just about counting savings and building budgets. Home equity is another important consideration.

To calculate home equity, subtract the money owed on your mortgage loan from the current market value of your house. For example, if your home is worth $250,000 and you still owe $150,000 on your mortgage loan, you have $100,000 of equity in your home.

Depending on your financial situation, home equity may be necessary to buy a new home. Keep in mind that equity does not become available until the closing is complete. Typically, lenders will limit borrowers to 80% to 90% of their available equity, depending on factors such as credit history and income, among others.

Unless you’re selling a home shortly after buying it, the current market value of a home could likely differ from the initial purchase price. These changes could either increase or decrease your home equity.

Generally speaking, the average home sale price in the United States increases year-to-year, barring notable exceptions like the 2008 financial crisis and subsequent recession. However, these trends don’t account for regional housing booms and busts.

Getting an official valuation from a real estate appraiser, which typically costs between $300 and $400, is one way to get a more accurate idea of your home equity and a feasible sale price. Researching comparable homes that recently sold in your community can give you a ballpark estimate, too.

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Prequalification vs Preapproval

Being aware of your personal financial situation is useful for a variety of reasons, especially when buying a house. But if you’re among the majority of buyers who finance their home purchase, your mortgage lender will consider factors beyond your own number crunching and goals when deciding on their loan offer.

For many prospective homebuyers, prequalifying is the first step to getting an estimate of how large a home loan they would likely qualify for. Lenders generally evaluate factors like a buyer’s debt, assets, and income, which may take just a matter of days.

Becoming prequalified does not lock buyers into a set mortgage rate. Rather, it gives them a more accurate picture of their financing options and what houses are in their price range. Before making an offer, it is generally advisable that buyers get prequalified, which they can demonstrate with a letter from their lender. This can signal to the sellers that they are a serious buyer.

To ultimately obtain a mortgage loan, buyers still need to go through preapproval. In this process, lenders perform a more thorough credit and financial background check to arrive at a specific preapproved loan amount.

Sellers may consider offers from preapproved buyers more favorably than those with just prequalification since there is less concern about a rejected mortgage application pending a deal. Preapproval may also get you to the closing table faster, which can be a big plus if you’re in a competitive market.

Selling Before Buying

Whether by intention or pure circumstance, you could find yourself a choice of selling your house before buying your next home.

Selling first can potentially be beneficial for qualifying for a mortgage loan. After the sale closes, you may be able to use that money to finance a down payment on a new home, as well as having a lower debt-to-income ratio.

Yet, selling before buying may create complications like finding a place to stay until you purchase a new home. If the new buyers are not willing or able to do a rent-back agreement, you may end up having to find temporary housing until you buy a new home.

Apartments and rental properties may require signing up for a lease of as much as 12 months. For prospective homebuyers, a lengthy rental commitment with penalties for leaving early may be costly. Instead, finding a month-to-month rental option can grant more flexibility and sync up with a storage unit lease, if needed.

Buying Before Selling

When you find your dream home, you may want to pull the trigger and make an offer right away. But what does that mean if your house hasn’t sold yet?

If your budget allows you to buy a home with cash vs. a mortgage, you may be in a position to move forward with the offer.

For some, making a down payment or home purchase before selling with savings alone is not feasible. In other cases, your debt-to-income ratio and credit may prevent you from getting a feasible.

There are several options available if this is not the case. A home equity line of credit (HELOC) can let prospective buyers borrow against the equity of their current home. A buyer’s credit and existing home equity are taken into account when a lender is evaluating whether they qualify for a HELOC.

If approved, buyers can use the HELOC to access money for a down payment and then pay it off when their house sells. Take note of the repayment terms and interest rate on the HELOC, as these can vary from lender to lender.

Taking out a bridge loan is another possibility. These short-term loans are usually structured to cover a down payment and become due after several months. Bridge loans generally have high interest rates and may require an origination fee. Sellers who cannot unload their house in time may need to request an extension or begin repaying the loan while still paying two mortgages.

Choosing a Real Estate Agent

A savvy real estate agent can help reduce the stress and uncertainty of selling and buying a house at the same time. Their expertise can come in handy for setting a realistic listing price, scheduling showings, and staging a home.

If you had a positive experience with the agent you worked with to buy your home, their familiarity with your property could help expedite the process and give you peace of mind in case you have to move out of the area before selling.

There are benefits to using the same agent for buying and selling when geography allows. For instance, they can simplify the lines of communication and more easily coordinate the closing of both homes with your ideal timeline.

Sometimes it may not be possible to use the same agent. The obvious case is when you’re moving a significant distance to a new area.

The need to use two real estate agents could arise if you’ve chosen a reputable agent who exclusively works with buyers or sellers alone. If you decide to hire such an agent, they may be able to recommend a trusted colleague in their agency to handle your other deal.

Timing Your Closing Dates

There is a lot to consider when selling and buying a house at the same time. The timing of both dates can impact what your financing options are, whether you have to find temporary housing, and it you’ll need to store or move your belongings.

Setting a closing date is part of the negotiating process for any real estate deal, and coordinating closings for the same date can streamline the process.

Still, closings can be delayed due to reasons outside your control. Having a back-up plan, such as a rent-back agreement, can keep you in your home while you find a new house. Putting additional contingencies in a contract can help with rescheduling closings as needed or even walking away without much financial loss.

The Takeaway

Buying and selling houses at the same time may not always be easy, but it is doable. It’s ideal to have both closings the same day. But if that’s not possible, there are still ways you can accommodate either buying a house before you’ve sold your old home, or selling your house before you have a new place to live. Either way can work, but if you sell before you buy, it may be easier to get a mortgage on your new home.

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Is it better to sell your house first before buying another?

If you can, it may be more practical to sell your house before you buy the next one. That way, you can use the funds from the sale to finance your new house’s down payment, and you avoid the possibility that you might have to pay two mortgages at once. However, if there’s a gap between when you sell your old house and when you close on your new one, you’ll have to figure out temporary lodgings.

What happens to your mortgage when you sell your house and buy another?

When you sell your house, if there’s still a mortgage outstanding on it, you will have to pay it off at the closing. Typically, your mortgage lender will be paid with some of the money you get for the sale of your house. That’s the usual process whether or not you are buying another house.

What is the minimum credit score for a bridge loan?

Qualifications for bridge loans can be demanding. The minimum credit score for a bridge loan can vary by lender, but typically it will be 700 or or more.

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While talking about prenups and postnups isn’t as romantic as discussing your honeymoon or dream house, these agreements can be a financial lifesaver if your marriage were to end.

Both prenups and postnups help determine who would get what if you and your spouse got divorced. But there are some significant differences between them. And depending on your circumstances, one may suit your relationship better than the other.

Here, you’ll learn some of the key ways prenups vs. postnups differ, as well as how to decide if you and your partner would benefit from getting one or the other.

What is a Prenup?

Short for “prenuptial agreement,” a prenup is a legally binding document set up before a couple gets married — hence the “pre” suffix. Prenups may also be known as “antenuptial agreements” or “premarital agreements,” but the bottom line is, they’re contracts drafted before vows are made.

These contracts typically list each party’s assets, including property, bank accounts, heirlooms, collections, pets. etc, as well as any debts either soon-to-be-spouse might carry.

It then details how these assets and financial obligations will be divided in case the marriage comes to an end, either through a divorce or the death of a spouse.

Who Needs a Prenup?

Couples who are getting married for the first time and are bringing little to no assets into the marriage may not need to bother with drawing up a prenup.

However, a prenup can be particularly useful if one spouse is coming into the marriage with children from a previous partnership, or if one partner has a large inheritance or a significant estate, or is expecting to receive a large inheritance or distribution from a family trust.

These types of agreements aren’t just used in case of divorce, but also death, which can be particularly important for couples with children from a previous marriage. If that partner dies, the prenup can define how much of their wealth should be passed onto their children versus their surviving spouse.

Prenups can also be useful for protecting assets earned and property acquired during the course of a marriage, which, without a prenup, are generally considered “shared ownership.” If one partner wants to maintain a separate claim to acquired wealth or possessions, a prenuptial agreement makes that possible.

A prenup can also keep a high-earning partner from being required to pay alimony to their partner in the case of a divorce. However, in some states, a spouse can’t give up the right to alimony, and the waiver may not be enforced by a judge depending on the way the prenup is drafted.

In the event of divorce, a prenup can also help protect a spouse from being liable for any debt, such as student loan payments, the other spouse brought into the union.

What is a Postnup?

A postnup, or postnuptial agreement, is almost identical to a prenup — except that it’s drafted after a marriage has been established.

These contracts may not be as well known as prenups, but postnups have grown increasingly common in recent years, with nearly all 50 U.S. states now allowing them.

A postnup may be created soon after the wedding if a couple meant to get a prenup but simply didn’t get around to it before the big day. Or, it might be drawn up well afterwards, especially if some significant financial change has taken place in the family.

Either way, a postnup, much like a prenup, does the job of outlining exactly how assets, including individual checking accounts, joint bank accounts, property previously owned and purchased together, etc., will be allocated if the partnership comes to an end.

Who Needs a Postnup?

Along with being drafted whole cloth, a postnup can be used to amend an existing prenuptial agreement if there have been big changes that mean the initial contract is now outdated.

And although it’s not fun to think about, if a couple feels they’ll soon be facing divorce, a postnup can help simplify one important part of the process before the rest of the legal proceedings take place.

A postnup, like a prenup, can help separate out assets that would otherwise be considered shared, or “marital property,” which can be important if one partner obtains an inheritance, trust, piece of real estate, or other possession they want to maintain full ownership over.

Postnups can also be part of a renewed effort for a couple to commit to a marriage that may be facing some obstacles and challenges.

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Prenup vs. Postnup: Which is Right for Your Relationship?

While it may be a difficult conversation to face with your fiance or spouse, creating a prenup or postnup can be an important step to help you avoid both headache and heartache later on.

If you don’t make a prenup or postnup, your state’s laws determine who owns the assets that you acquire in your marriage, as well as what happens to that property in the event of divorce or death. State law may also determine what happens to some of the assets you owned before marriage.

While almost any couple can benefit from a frank discussion of who gets what in the worst-case scenario, here are the situations in which you might specifically want to consider a prenup vs. postnup.

When to Consider a Prenup

•   If one or both partners have existing children from a previous partnership, to whom they want to lay out specific inheritances in case of death.

•   If one partner has a larger estate or net worth (i.e., if one spouse is significantly wealthier than the other).

•   If one or both partners want to protect earnings made and possessions acquired during the marriage from “shared ownership.”

When to Consider a Postnup

•   If you intended to create a prenup but ran out of time or otherwise didn’t do so before the wedding.

•   If significant financial changes have made it necessary to change an existing prenup or draft a new postnup.

•   If divorce is looking likely or inevitable, and you want to streamline the process of dividing marital assets before undergoing the rest of the process.

In all cases, prenuptial and postnuptial agreements can help simplify the division of assets in the case of either death or divorce — and in either of those extremely emotionally charged scenarios, every little bit of simplification can help.

However, prenups are sometimes considered more straightforward, since they’re made before assets are combined to become marital property.

Prenups may be more likely to be enforceable than postnups should one partner attempt to dispute it after a divorce.

How to Get a Prenup or Postnup

Here are points to consider:

•   For a prenup or postnup agreement to be considered valid by a judge, it must be clear, legally sound, and fair.

•   Couples looking to save money may be able to use a template to create a prenup or postnup themselves.

•   It may still be a good idea, however, for each partner to at least have separate attorneys review the document before either one signs.

•   If your estate is more complex, you may want to consider hiring an attorney to draft the agreement.

•   Either way, having an attorney review the document will help protect your interests and also help ensure that a judge will deem the agreement is valid.

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Reducing the Odds You’ll Ever Need to Use that Prenup or Postnup

While creating a prenup or postnup can be a smart move for even the most hopeful and romantic of couples, the ideal scenario is a happily-ever-after that leaves those contracts to gather dust.

Fighting about money is one of the top causes of strife among couples, and one of the main reasons married couples land in divorce court.

For some couples, one way to improve their odds might be waiting until they’ve achieved some measure of financial stability before tying the knot. Walking into a marriage with a solid personal foundation, such as a well-stocked emergency fund and a well-established retirement account, can help partners feel empowered and able to focus on other important relationship goals.

Financial transparency, starting before and/or early in marriage, can also help mitigate marital tension over money.

To achieve more transparency, some couples may want to consider opening up a joint bank account, either after they tie the knot or before if they are living together and sharing household expenses.

While there are pros and cons to having a shared account, merging at least some of your money can help make it easier to track spending and stick to a household budget, while also fostering openness and teamwork.

For couples who’d rather not share every penny (or explain every purchase), having two separate accounts along with one joint account can be a good solution that helps keep money from becoming a source of tension in a marriage.

The Takeaway

Prenuptial and postnuptial agreements are both legal documents that address what will happen to marital assets if a married couple divorces or one of them dies.

A prenup is drafted before marriage, while a postnup can be drafted soon after or many years into marriage. Both agreements can make divorce or the death of a partner significantly less traumatic and help divide assets in an equitable way.

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FAQ

Are postnups as good as prenups?

Postnuptial agreements can be just as effective as prenuptial agreements, provided they are well-drafted and both parties enter into them voluntarily. Both agreements serve to clarify financial responsibilities and asset distribution in case of divorce. However, postnups may face more scrutiny in court because they are made after the marriage, potentially under different emotional circumstances. Ensuring the agreement is fair and legally sound is crucial for its effectiveness.

What are the disadvantages of a postnuptial agreement?

Postnuptial agreements can strain a marriage, as they may be seen as a lack of trust or commitment. They can also be more challenging to enforce if one party claims they were coerced or if the agreement is deemed unfair. It’s important to handle the process with sensitivity and legal guidance.

Is a postnup enforceable?

A postnup is generally enforceable if it meets legal requirements, such as being in writing, signed by both parties, and notarized. It must be fair and not result from coercion or fraud. Ideally, both parties should have independent legal representation, as this helps to ensure the agreement is valid. Courts may scrutinize postnups more closely than prenups due to the emotional dynamics of a marriage, but a well-drafted postnup can still hold up in court.

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Ask couples what they fight about most, and money is sure to be at the top of the list. Decades of research have shown that common clashes are sparked by different spending habits, different financial values (which influence spending habits), and how to raise financially smart kids.

While dealing with money isn’t always easy, it doesn’t have to drive a wedge in your relationship. These strategies can help ensure your financial discussions with your partner are productive and — dare we suggest — maybe even something to look forward to.

Meet Regularly — but Don’t Discuss Money

When couples fight about money, the classic mistake is to think that having a regular “money talk” will help solve things. Unlikely.

That’s because the source of most financial disagreements is that one person’s values don’t line up with the other’s. In order to truly ease money stress, you have to start by understanding the bigger wants and needs and priorities of your partner.

Make time to meet regularly and focus on things you both want out of life. It doesn’t have to be a long conversation — maybe 30 minutes, or an hour.

Come Prepared

Consider bringing a list of topics to each meeting, but don’t expect to cover them all. There will be other meetings, and it’s more important to leave each conversation with a sense that you understand each other better. Depending on the stage of your relationship, you might raise some common questions:

Do you want kids? Do you want pets? Do you want to live a certain lifestyle? Start a business? Retire early? Send the kids to private school vs. public?

How important is it to have a vacation each year, or is it more important to have a beautiful home — or both?

Do you both believe in working hard and playing hard? Working to live or living to work? These may sound like cliches, but dig into each topic to get at each person’s core feelings.

Create a Safe Space

A key aspect of these non-money talks has to be a spirit of openness, not criticism or judgment. You’re trying to get to know one another in a slightly different way. Ask questions, take time to listen to each other’s answers.

While these sessions may seem uncomfortable at first, having these non-financial conversations may actually prevent important issues from causing conflicts or money fights in the future.

Again, keep these conversations fairly short. The idea is to find common ground, and that may not happen right away. So don’t expect to agree, expect to learn something new about your partner.

Look for Shared Goals and Points of Agreement

Even couples that fight about money, also agree on plenty of financial issues. Be sure to pay attention as you discover these points in common, and celebrate the fact that you have them.

Knowing that you have financial goals and priorities in common, not just pain points, can build your confidence and momentum and lead to the good part of all this: Having more fun because you’re not stressed about money squabbles!

Address Financial Topics as Organically as You Can

Rather than set up more meetings (who has time?), you can use your newfound empathy and sense of shared values to tackle topics as they come up naturally in your day-to-day lives.

Now you can talk about spending when you get the credit card bill, or when you have to make a tough choice between two competing priorities. In some ways it’s less stressful to discuss whether to refinance the house or set up a Roth IRA when that question comes up organically, rather than trying to anticipate bigger issues.

Be sure to include something fun in your financial plan. Money is for the future, and it’s also for the present, so make sure you enjoy it.

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Let Go of Resentment

Financial inequity between partners — say, if one person has a lot of debt or there’s a large disparity between incomes — can be a common source of tension.

If you feel like one person’s debt is holding you both back, remember that it doesn’t have to last forever. There are many strategies for paying off debt — talking it through will help you find the right path for you both. You might also decide to meet with a financial advisor who can help you prioritize, create a budget, and perhaps even refinance to break even faster.

In cases of income disparity, it may help to reframe each partner’s contribution to the household. Yes, one person may bring in more (or all) of the household income, but be clear on the non-monetary intangibles that the other person is contributing. Cooking, cleaning, watching the kids, caring for aging relatives — these duties all add up and represent what each of you is bringing to the household.

Reward Yourselves

Create incentives to stick with your meeting schedule. Maybe that means taking your laptops to your favorite coffee shop, or treating yourselves to a movie night afterward.

Another idea is to reward yourselves as a couple after you hit a predetermined financial goal or milestone. For example, every month you successfully increase your emergency fund by a target amount, you might choose to enjoy a nice restaurant meal.

Even a free indulgence — like a walk around your favorite lake after the discussion — can be effective. Just make it something that you both enjoy (bonus points if it’s something that you don’t do all the time so it feels extra special). That way, you’ll look forward to it.

The Takeaway

The best way to take the sting out of discussing finances with your partner is to start by getting in sync as people, understanding each other’s values and perspectives. Scheduling time to talk monthly (or whatever cadence works for you) allows you to also savor the ways you are on the same page already, and what some of those shared goals are.

Don’t try to meet about big hairy financial goals that aren’t on the table yet. You do have to plan ahead, but it’s also important (and less stressful) to address money matters as they arise naturally. Then, get back to the fun of living your lives together the rest of the time.

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FAQ

How do you talk about money in a relationship?

Talking about money in a relationship requires openness and honesty. Start by setting up a regular time to discuss your financial goals, values, and concerns. Create a safe space where both partners can share without judgment. Try to only use “I” statements to express your feelings and avoid blame. This approach helps build trust and ensures both partners are on the same page.

At what point in a relationship should you talk about money?

It’s best to talk about money early in a relationship, ideally before moving in together or becoming financially intertwined. This could be after a few months of dating or when the relationship feels serious. Discussing financial matters early helps prevent misunderstandings and builds a foundation of trust. It’s also wise to revisit the topic periodically as your relationship and financial situations evolve.

What is a financial red flag in a relationship?

A financial red flag in a relationship includes secretive behavior about money, excessive debt, or an unwillingness to discuss financial matters. Other signs include lying about spending, refusing to contribute to shared expenses, and having different financial goals without a plan to reconcile them. Recognizing these red flags early can help you address issues and maintain a healthy, transparent relationship.

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The performance of index funds can vary based on which index the fund tracks and how the stock market performs as a whole. Index funds can offer a simplified approach to portfolio building when the primary goal is to meet, rather than beat, the market’s performance.

In simple terms, these mutual funds or exchange-traded funds (ETFs) seek to track the performance of a particular stock market index or benchmark. While these funds can offer some insulation against volatility, it’s important to understand which factors drive index fund returns.

What Are Index Funds?

An index fund is a type of fund that’s designed to track the performance of a stock market index, by investing in some or all of the securities tracked by that particular index. An index represents a collection of securities, which may include stocks, bonds, and other assets.

Stock indexes can cover one particular sector of the market or a select grouping of companies. Examples of well-known stock indexes include the S&P 500 Index and the Russell 2000 Index.

What Determines Index Fund Returns?

Even though index funds tend to have a similar purpose and function inside a portfolio, the return on index funds isn’t identical from one fund to the next. Index funds can lose money, too. Factors that can influence index funds’ returns include:

•   Which specific index they track

•   Whether that index is:

◦   Cap-weighted, in which each security is weighted by the total market value of its shares.

◦   Price-weighted, in which the per-share price of each security in the index determines its value.

◦   Equal-weighted, in which all of the securities being tracked are assigned an equal weight for determining value.

•   Number of securities held by the fund

•   Geographic classification of fund securities

•   Expense ratio and fees

•   Overall market conditions

•   Tracking error

Together, these factors can influence how well one index fund performs versus another.

Index Tracking

First, consider which benchmark an index fund tracks. There can be significant differences in the makeup of various indexes. For instance, the S&P 500 covers the 500 largest publicly traded companies, while the Russell 2000 Index includes 2000 small-cap U.S. companies.

Large-cap stocks can perform very differently from small-cap stocks, which translates to differences in index fund returns. Between the two, large-cap companies tend to be viewed as more stable, while smaller-cap companies are seen as riskier. Large-cap companies may fare better during periods of increased market volatility, but in an extended downturn, small-cap companies may outperform their larger counterparts.

Index Weighting

Cap-weighted, price-weighted, and equal-weighted indexes all have the potential to perform differently, because each company’s stock may have different weight in each of these types of funds. For example, if a stock in an equal-weighted index filled with 500 stocks performs poorly, those shares represent 1/500th of performance. On the other hand, if the same stock performs poorly in a cap-weighted fund and it happens to have a very high market cap, it may represent a larger percentage of performance.

For these reasons, it’s also important to know how many securities are held by the fund. The more financial securities in a given fund, the greater the likelihood that a poorly performing one will be balanced by others.

Geographic Classification

Even when two index funds both follow the same formula with regard to market capitalization, returns can still differ if each fund offers a different geographic exposure. For example, a fund that tracks a global market index and includes a mix of international and domestic stocks may not yield the same results as an index fund that focuses exclusively on U.S. companies.

Funds that track global indexes can also differ when it comes to how they characterize certain markets. For instance, what one fund considers to be a developed country may be another index fund’s emerging market. That in turn can influence index fund returns.

Expense Ratio and Fees

Index funds are generally passive, rather than active, since the turnover of assets inside the fund is typically low. This allows for lower expense ratios, which represent the annual cost of owning a mutual fund or ETF each year, expressed as a percentage of fund assets. Generally, index funds carry lower expense ratios compared to actively managed funds, but they aren’t all the same in terms of where they land on the pricing spectrum.

The industry average expense ratio for index funds tends to be a bit more than 0.5%, though it’s possible to find index funds with expense ratios well below that mark. The higher the expense ratio, the more you’ll hand back in various fees to own that index fund each year, reducing your overall returns.

In terms of fees, some of the costs you might pay include:

•   Sales loads

•   Redemption fees

•   Exchange fees

•   Account fees

•   Purchase fees

When comparing index fund costs, it’s important to keep the expense ratio, fees, and historical performance in mind. Finding an index fund with an exceptionally low expense ratio, for instance, may not be that much of a bargain if it comes with high sales load fees. But a fund that charges a higher expense ratio may be justifiable if it consistently outperforms similar index funds regularly.

Tracking Error

Tracking errors can significantly impact your return on index funds. This occurs when an index fund doesn’t accurately track the performance of its underlying index or benchmark.

Tracking errors are often tied to issues with the fund, rather than its index. For example, if a fund’s composition doesn’t accurately reflect the composition of the index it tracks then performance results are more likely to be skewed. Excessive fees or a too-high expense ratio can also throw a fund’s tracking off.

Note, too, that tracking errors can also be referred to as “tracking differences,” and can reflect the divergence or difference between the benchmark and the position of a specific portfolio.

What Are Good Index Fund Returns?

What is a good return on investment for an index fund? Given that the return on index funds can vary, the simplest answer may be to look at the stock market’s historical performance as a whole.

The S&P 500 Index is often used as a primary market benchmark for measuring returns year over year. The average annualized return for the S&P 500 Index since its inception, including dividends and adjusted for inflation, is around 6% to 7%. Following that logic, a good return on investment for an index fund would be around the same.

You could also use the fund’s individual index as a means of measuring its performance. Comparing the fund’s performance to the index’s performance month to month or year over year can give you an idea of whether it’s living up to its expected return potential.

Are Index Funds a Good Investment?

Index funds may appeal to one type of investor more than another, which is why it’s always important to do your research before determining what will be a good fit for your portfolio.

Investors who prefer a low-cost, passive approach may lean toward index investing for long-term growth potential. Index funds can offer several advantages, including simplified diversification and consistent returns over time.

For example, if your investment goals include keeping costs low while producing consistent returns with lower fees, then index investing may be a good choice. You may also appreciate how easy it is to buy index funds or ETFs and use them to create a diversified portfolio.

Index funds can help with pursuing a goals-based investing approach, which focuses on investing to meet specific goals rather than attempting to beat the market. When comparing index funds, pay attention to the funds’ makeup, costs, historical performance, turnover ratio, and the extent of their tracking errors.

The Takeaway

A number of factors help explain why different index funds have different returns, including, but not limited to, which index they track and how they’re weighted, the geographic classification of the fund securities, their expense ratios, and overall market conditions.

But keep in mind: Unless you have a crystal ball, there’s no way to predict exactly how an index fund will perform. But getting to know what differentiates one index fund or ETF from the next can help with making more informed decisions about which ones to buy.

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FAQ

What is an index fund?

Index funds are specific types of funds that track the performance of a market index or benchmark, and invest in some or all of the same securities tracked by that index. That could include stocks, bonds, or other assets.

What common factors determine index returns?

Several factors can influence the return an index fund produces, including what specific benchmark to index the fund is tracking, how it’s weighted, how many securities it holds, expense ratios and fees, or overall market conditions.

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Rebecca Lake

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